Original link: https://codechina.org/2022/10/lonely/
When it comes to this topic, I have to mention a friend of mine, Xiao A. He is a social learning enthusiast. He believes that when many people study together, it is easy to form a group that supervises and promotes each other.
This theory of social learning is actually used by many apps.
For example, the WeChat campaign, for many people, the biggest motivation to go out for a walk is to be on the leaderboard and to be liked by friends. What is the magical effect of this thing? When I lived in Shanghai, I sometimes felt depressed. A particularly big feature of depression is that I don’t want to do anything all day, I don’t go out, and I rely on the outside for everything I eat and snacks.
Sometimes, my mother would call me and say, you didn’t go out today. I said yes. Then talk a few words about my current situation. I’ve always wondered why my mom called me when I was depressed. Later, I finally couldn’t help but ask her, she said, you only have more than 100 steps on WeChat exercise, and it is estimated that you have spent another day at home. I said yes.
There is also WeChat reading. WeChat reading not only has a weekly ranking list, but your reading time can also be exchanged for benefits.
Little A likes this kind of social learning atmosphere the most. Once I went to his house to play, after he opened the door and let me in, he arranged for me to sit down on the sofa and said, you play for 20 minutes, and I will come to you later. Then went back to the bedroom.
I followed and took a look. It turned out that he was reading a book on the writing desk in the bedroom. There was also a mobile phone on the writing desk, with the screen turned sideways. There were several windows on the screen, and everyone was reading. I think this is a group reading meeting organized by your company? I just quit and played in the living room for a while.
20 minutes later, he came out and said, you came too early, I thought you were going to be a little late, then I just finished the job.
I said, does your company still hold group reading clubs?
He said no, this is an online virtual study room, and all the people are just netizens. Everyone made an appointment to study together for 2 hours and supervise each other with the cameras on.
I said, does this work?
Very useful, he said.
Later, I learned that he is very fond of social learning, or group-supervised learning. WeChat sports and WeChat reading are of course his favorites.
He has participated in many early wake-up check-in groups, that is, he set a goal of getting up early, requiring to get up early on time for a month in a row, and if he can’t do it, he will send a red envelope to the group owner.
Did I say these groups help you build the habit of getting up early? He said, not yet, but I feel the pain in the flesh, and I will definitely develop the habit of getting up early.
Later, he also made one-on-one study partners with people. He had been looking for me. I said, what does this study partner need to do?
He said, even if we make an appointment, we can read books, write articles, or make reports. Let’s start a video chat and supervise each other without getting distracted.
I said, I am a freelancer, I can read books and write articles at any time, and I can’t stand it if you want me to do something at a certain point.
So he found a mutual friend of ours, little B. One day I met Xiao B, and I said, how is the one-on-one study partner between Xiao A and you?
Xiao B said that it was not bad at first, and we read a lot of books together. Later, he thought of more ways to play, get up early together, go out to play basketball together, and so on.
I said, isn’t that good?
Little B said, what a good thing. Reading books together at night is fine, but for daytime activities, such as getting up early, or going out to play basketball, he is always late. Once, he was an hour late, and he called me to cancel it. I’ve been ignoring him lately.
Once, I asked Xiao A, why are you doing this? He said that it is difficult for me to manage myself, and the regularity of my life is very poor, so I feel that I need a social learning method to manage myself.
I asked, why not manage it well? Xiao B told me that you were so late that he didn’t want to care about you anymore.
Xiao A said that supervision is needed only if it is not managed well, but it seems that it is not managed well after supervision.
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I am not blindly opposed to social learning. I am sure there are many successful examples. However, the story of my friend Xiao A seems to be a counter-example. He has repeatedly failed in social learning, but he has an advantage, he has never given up.
I talked to him a few times. The big reason why he likes social learning is that he has always been a good student and a good boy since childhood. Teachers and parents are very strict. He learns very efficiently when he is managed. However, the ability to learn and deal with problems independently has not been cultivated.
Originally, he was going to read a book for an hour, but if there is no supervision, he will keep wandering and unable to concentrate. Just look at it and do something else.
In fact, I have met many such good children in my life and work. When they were schooled, they were all good. What the teacher instills in them is also well absorbed. But they lack the habit and ability to study independently.
Even some children’s problem is that they feel completely incomprehensible when they read books by themselves. For example, once I was talking to a child about reading. I asked if he had read a certain book. He said he had read it, and I said what the harvest of this book is for you. He said, I was very confused after reading it, I couldn’t find the central sentence or the central idea. I think the book written by foreigners is too cloudy and foggy, why there is no clear central idea, and I like to give so many examples. Why not simply write the conclusion out?
In fact, I think these are the evil consequences of exam-oriented education. Many people have lost the ability to study independently, and even dare not summarize the core meaning of a book by themselves. The author needs to give a clear central sentence and the central idea, and the teacher will draw a key point, otherwise they will not know how to read.
I think social learning is a good idea, and there is no problem with mutual supervision. But more often, we may need to be properly alone.
I read books, not under the supervision of others. It’s what I want to see. Learning is not forced by teachers or study partners, but because I want to learn.
This requires us to read more books that we are interested in and read more meaningful books. Learn more about your favorite field.
How to study without a teacher? No one higher than us instructs us how to learn?
In fact, it is very simple. Practice is the only criterion for testing all truth.
Useful things are learned faster. Once you learn to use it immediately, you can master it better.
I always recommend learning programming, don’t focus on any book to learn, design a small project to break through. In the process, if you don’t know the database, you can buy the database book, and if you don’t know the algorithm, you can buy the algorithm book. Use needs to drive learning.
In fact, learning other things is exactly the same.
Our education should best teach us how to teach ourselves. But I think this is the weakest link in our education. If we don’t learn to learn by ourselves under the exam-oriented education, it’s really nothing. Use your whole life to learn by yourself, use self-study to learn everything you want to learn, and live a good life is also very good.
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Off topic, the community was unblocked yesterday. Today, I went out to buy vegetables and medicine.
Speaking of which, the mop and broom at home were broken two days ago. I borrowed it from my parents. I said that it was unblocked in the past two days to buy a new one, but they bought it for me early in the morning… No matter how old they are, they are still a child in their hearts.
Today’s lunch is luncheon meat fried garlic moss and fried stinky tofu. It’s a pity I didn’t find a cardboard box that sells stinky tofu outside, otherwise it would look more like it. Putting it on a plate is a bit like fried tofu. It’s actually the kind of fried tofu sold outside, and then seasoned with stinky tofu Have a meal.
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