220 days without updates

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All it takes for a relationship to end is for the two people to do nothing, for a content creator to be forgotten, and for nothing to be updated. What is it that drives such a lazy dog to start writing again?

I haven’t written a new article in a long time, the last one was exactly 220 days ago. In the past 220 days, my life has experienced quite a lot of ups and downs. I am proud of my double salary, and I am angry when I face outrageous leaders; have no choice. This article has been dragged on for another month one after another, and one more article has been added. I have experienced the bitterness of the department disappearing under the leadership of an incompetent leader.

In the usual way, I may write a lot of articles. I am a person who likes to think alone and convert ideas into words, but after chatGPT became popular all over the world and AIGC changed people’s understanding of creation, I once Thinking, what is the meaning of creation?

In the past, when I didn’t know a certain technology, I would go to the search engine to find programmers’ blogs, and I learned quickly.
I used to think that painting and composing, which require people to be creative, will never be replaced by AI.
Now that I have an unclear problem, the first thing I think of is to ask chatGPT, so what is the significance of my writing technical articles?
Although there are still flaws in AI drawing and AI composing, the amazing growth rate of AI is still suffocating.

However, a few things that happened recently made me regain the desire to update the article. I feel more and more that life is a more important topic than what technology, skills or knowledge I have learned (AI is better than us). Although everyone’s growth trajectory is different, you can always see the shadow of your own struggle in the lives of others. AI may be able to summarize complex knowledge, but AI cannot share its life experience, the people and things it encounters in life, as well as its confusion, anxiety, helplessness and happiness.

In the year of graduation, when searching for some programming problems, I accidentally came across a programmer’s blog. In addition to the technology itself, he also recorded his own life. The words have given me a lot of strength. What I am going through, he has also gone through. Seeing his life getting better day by day, it seems that I also have the strength to live harder. That is the original intention of my writing! You can visit his website: https://tobyqin.cn/

It’s hard for you to imagine who you’re influencing

I have never contacted the programmer I brushed. He must not have imagined how his words would affect a young man thousands of kilometers away. For some reason, I couldn’t open comments on my own website, so for a long time, I felt that my words were written for myself. As for the readers, they have nothing to do with me. However, there is a lack of interaction, and after a long time, there will be no motivation to continue updating.

But sometimes the people who pay attention to you and be influenced by you may exceed your imagination. Last month, a junior Tiezhi found me through Zhihu (due to filing reasons, I only put it on the about page of my website. The contact information of github, Zhihu, and station B, it still takes a little effort to find me), expressing that they are my fans and hope to get to know each other. I have never thought that I would have fans. I feel how superior I am. I am an ordinary person. Writing articles is simply to record my life and satisfy my desire to share technology. On the one hand, I am really happy. After all, my website has not been updated for more than half a year. I thought that no one would read it, but someone actually saw my website through re-insurance. On the other hand, I also lament that the young people nowadays are too powerful. I started my internship in my junior year. I only wrote my first network communication program when I was a junior. In order to protect privacy, you can go to his website to see, here is the mosaic: https://blog.tarchi.top

In my spare time, I also like to play the piano for impromptu accompaniment. At first, I just hoped to share the good music. Later, I found that my video a year ago or even a few years ago will still be seen by people, and some people hope to share it. Score, some friends used my accompaniment for art test, some people said they like the same music, even, I also have a reminder party.

Content creators, the most important thing is to keep creating

Whether it is the book “Growing Up”, which I like very much, or the video of Ban Buddha, they all emphasize the importance of repetition and persistence.

Here I recommend an APP, Duolingo, which is very good for learning foreign languages. From setting the daily study time at the beginning, to the answering process with interesting scenarios and cute animations, it also changes patterns to help you achieve repetition and persistence in this process. I have even gotten used to watching Duolingo for five minutes instead of short videos during breaks.

When sticking to one thing, split it up reasonably, arrange the difficulty of different parts, and try to find fun for yourself during the practice process, and reward yourself after achieving small goals. It all determines whether you can persist in one thing. Of course, it is easier said than done. It is easy for you to set a very high goal for yourself, and then the task division is not reasonable enough to meet your expectations, so it is easy to give up.

So, if you want to stick to one thing, try Duolingo, maybe it can give you some inspiration. It’s really not just a meal. Taking English learning as an example, Duolingo sets daily learning goals. It seems to be 5 minutes, 10 minutes, and 20 minutes. It seems very little! However, this is actually a very important point in setting goals. If you change reading a book for half an hour to reading a book for 5 minutes, you will find that the latter is often easier for you to persist, because half an hour seems like a long time, and you will be lazy. 5 minutes really doesn’t matter. Once you pick up the book, you won’t just put it down after reading it for 5 minutes! Of course, there are other ingenious design points in this APP, everyone can experience and summarize it by themselves, and apply it to other things that you want to keep doing!

Repetition and persistence are particularly important in content creation. In fact, I have never felt that I am a content creator. I only write occasionally. Rather than saying that I am a content creator, I prefer to define myself as a content consumer By. I have followed a lot of UP hosts, and one of them is VZOO from Station B. He has a Ph.D. in journalism and communication. He mainly does some digital-related content. Drink some wine, share the news of the week in the technology circle like chatting with friends in front of the camera, and also add some of your own opinions and insights. As a consumer of content, one-click three links is because of his content creation, and forgetting this UP owner is also because of his content creation. For some reason, the E-weekly report has gradually become the E-monthly report and the E-annual report. As a fan, it would be a pity to see your favorite show stopped, but there is no more. Expressing your own subjective thoughts is a very dangerous thing, because very few people are willing to accept that others are different from themselves and have different opinions on the same thing. Or to put it another way, people’s instinct is to only listen to things that conform to their cognition, and for things that do not match their cognition, they either choose not to listen, or choose to raise an argument, or even make personal attacks to make the other party agree with themselves. At the same time, this UP owner also experienced many other things, such as investing in fields he didn’t understand, and being in debt overnight. But no matter what, I can also get a glimpse of the leopard from others. As a consumer of content, I hope that my favorite UP owners will continue to update. As a producer of content, have I insisted on creating? Apparently not either.

recognized strength

I don’t know why, but most people seem to find it difficult to praise someone sincerely, or take a step back, and there are very few people who can sit down and praise others against their will, or take a step back, and those who can find the advantages of others are more likely to be full of the other’s shortcomings There are far fewer people. I don’t know if the Internet has amplified this feature, or because of the influence of the Internet, people’s hostility has become more and more serious. Two days ago, I even saw an old man who had been working on a project for several years. I wanted to post a post to solicit everyone’s ideas. Because the title was wrong, I was on the same line as everyone. Of course, this expansion is another topic. Mature people will hide their strength and actively show weakness. This is often a way to win favor. I recommend everyone to watch the video of Cai Xukun, who was analyzed by Wizard Finance and Economics. Brother Kun has gone from being a monster by thousands of people, to the running man himself teasing himself about playing football in his overalls. It is really interesting. It’s hard to say whether it’s the brokerage company behind it, or Kun has grown up on his own, but as an audience member, I saw Kun making fun of himself in Running Man: “What’s wrong? Do you want me to wear overalls and play football again?” Really from I feel in my heart, this buddy is really interesting, Lu has become a fan.

The external environment is of course very unfriendly, so in this environment, if you meet someone who recognizes what you do and who recognizes you, it is a very powerful thing. Some time ago, Peng Peng and Peng Peng went to see Peng Peng’s mother. Whether it was the comments on the Internet or my own past experience, I was quite afraid of meeting the other’s parents. But this time, it went very smoothly. Pengpeng’s mother is a person who loves life very much. You will see small pendants hidden on the branches of potted plants at home, a small animal ornament hidden in a flower pot, and a cute sheep on the back of the sofa. Pengpeng Mom even likes anime and has watched “My Neighbor Totoro”. Forgive my prejudice, the comments on the Internet, or my own past experience made me really have a kind of, emmmmm, preconceived subjective ideas about my mother-in-law?

I always thought that these things were bought by Peng Peng’s mother at the handicraft store. Later, when she was about to return to the city where she worked, Peng Peng’s mother said: “Do you think these things are cute? You can choose one and give it to you!” I said I like it The biggest sheep on the back of the sofa was a sheep, and it was even placed in a charming pose deliberately. Pengpeng said: “You don’t know how long it took my mother to make these things, and her hands can’t handle them well. If I want her to give it to you, she will only give it to you!” I really like this doll, So you’re welcome. Pengpeng’s mother found that I also like these dolls very much, and was very happy. She took out all the dolls she made before and shared them with me.

Peng Peng’s mother’s happiness can be really felt. Later, Peng Peng took them on a trip. During the trip, Peng Peng’s mother was thinking about buying some new threads and making me new dolls. Peng Peng’s mother is very kind to me, and I am very happy to be recognized by my mother-in-law. As for Pengpeng’s mother’s happiness, I suddenly felt a little “empathy” (this word can’t be used in this way, it’s a typical error-prone idiom in the college entrance examination back then). What you spend your energy doing is recognized by others (you may become friends) , It’s really a very happy thing; if this recognition comes from someone you like (you may be together), the happiness will be doubled. If this recognition comes from a son-in-law, mother-in-law or the like (you may be able to start a family), the happiness will be doubled.

I read Teacher Chen Haixian’s “Intimate Relationship” before, and there is an example mentioned in it. The general meaning is that a girl who didn’t have much confidence at first gradually regained her confidence under the patient praise of her boyfriend. At the beginning, I didn’t think of how much power and change recognition can bring to others. This may be because I haven’t experienced what those important people recognize you can bring to you:

It seems that many people have been suppressed since their family education. For example, you can see that no one is good at your studies, and your children are not obedient.
Then come to the social circle, what are you doing? It’s not good at all. I have a friend; just you dare to post it?
When it comes to intimacy, how do you know how to play games so unmotivated? Why are you so emotionally unstable and like to lose your temper so much?
When it comes to married life, you earn so little money, are you ashamed to complain? Whatever the child looks like is up to you!

A few days ago, I heard a story FM, a girl told how she changed her father. She hated many of her father’s practices, but later gradually guided her father through praise, and the family gradually returned to harmony. I was very impressed by one of the things about cooking. Her father didn’t like cooking very much, so she said to her father: “Dad, what is your specialty? I suddenly want to eat your cooking.” Later Her father made braised pork, but it wasn’t very tasty. Her mother went back to the room without eating, but she said, “It’s delicious, but it’s a little oily. Next time, it’s better to be a little thinner. By the way, you still have Is it a special dish, can you cook it for me next time?” I think this is also the power brought by recognition, and the father’s cooking is recognized by his daughter, so he will naturally have the motivation to cook. After working so hard to cook a meal, the other party won’t eat it at all. Who has the motivation? After a long time, every time the father cooks, his daughter approves, and he develops the habit of cooking. The wife sees that her husband is diligent, and her married life will be better.

Tail

Recognition has two sides, one is to be recognized by others, and the other is to take the initiative to recognize others.

If you want to be recognized by others, you have to move first (if you don’t do anything, what do you recognize, you are lazy?), and then do things well, so that others can recognize you, right? When others recognize you, you also Only then will you be more motivated to do things. This is of course a cycle. It is a question of which comes first, the chicken or the egg. For me, my parents have always praised me. Since I went to college, they have unconditionally supported any decision I made and recognized my current grades. Pengpeng is also a little sun, and will not bring my negative emotions to me, but I always find Pengpeng for fun. Since there is no lack of approval from people who care about me, I hope that what I do will be recognized by more people. I added a message board to my website (jumped to Yuque), hoping to use Yuque’s comment function to see The iron people of my article interacted. If someone is willing to type a few words to interact with you, it means recognizing your stuff.

When we criticize others, we actually hope that the other party will change according to our own ideas. Those who just want to play against the line, that’s okay. But taking the initiative to recognize and guide others is, in my opinion, a way to make the other party change and become more intelligent. You say, I just want to make myself happy, that’s okay. Cultivate the habit of praising others and approving others more. You don’t even need to do it. You can think of it when you pat your head: naturally, the relationship with friends will be better, the relationship with colleagues and leaders will be better, and the relationship with family members will be better. better. Life is a mirror, your social relationship with everyone has improved, your mood has improved, and when you do things, it will gradually become smoother.

Looking back at this article, I found that if I haven’t written for a long time, my thinking will not be as clear as before. In the middle of 2023, I will still be the person with a lot of ideas in my head, but sometimes it’s not a good thing to have too many ideas ( There are a lot of articles that are not finished in the draft box, or even just listed with a title), I hope to start from this article and make some changes to make the second half of 2023 better. To sum up, there are actually two points:

Keep creating. Only by persisting in creation can the people who recognize and support you not forget you.
Recognition is powerful.

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