It’s 1am and I’ve just had a shower and I’m drying myself so I can write an article. I will do nucleic acid again this morning.
Recently, there is a template on Douyin that is quite popular. It is a photo to open a picture. It said that the epidemic started 3 years ago, and I think it will end soon.
Some of the first pictures are of a baby, and the current pictures are already walking. Some are from college students to migrant workers. Some people were very thin at first, and now they are quite fat. Etc., etc.
We have been through a lot in recent years. When I was thinking about today’s topic, I vaguely felt that I had written this topic, so I searched for it and found that in January 2020, I wrote an article ” Facing the Uncertainty of the Future, How Should We Anti-fragile? ” “, that article is written more systematically, and it is very well written from the perspective of actions and countermeasures. If you are interested in seeing specific action countermeasures, you can read that article. Here we talk about psychological stuff.
why? Because no matter how much you know, you can’t guarantee a good life.
In January 2020, we felt like we were facing a very uncertain future. But at that time, the Russian-Ukrainian war had not yet started. Today we see that the world has not returned to a simple normal state, but has become more and more uncertain at an accelerating rate.
The first two days someone asked me, what will happen in the future?
I said, I don’t know. But there are some things that we cannot control, such as whether it will rain tomorrow, whether Russia and Ukraine will continue to fight, and whether the yen will continue to fall. There are some we can control, for example, my skills, my abilities, my knowledge and even my wallet.
But still the truth is very simple. It’s hard to do well.
If I had followed exactly the January 2020 strategy, I would be in much better shape today and my wallet would be a lot more bulging. But during this time, I spent too much time worrying about the future. The result didn’t do much.
And in such a long period of time, I have suffered several large-scale episodes of depression, one can last for several months, so the wallet is getting more and more deflated, not caused by accident and uncertainty. Just because I don’t have emotional work, but I spend money on food and drink, and there is no way to reduce daily expenses.
So, paradoxically, we worry about uncertainty. But uncertainty hasn’t really knocked us down. Instead, we are overwhelmed by our own emotions.
I can’t go out to play in the rain tomorrow, it’s so miserable. But when the day came, the weather was fine, and because I was in a bad mood, I didn’t go out to play.
The Russian-Ukrainian war has had a huge impact on the global economy, causing many European and American people to have a sharp increase in living costs, and putting many Russian families into embarrassment. However, its effects have not directly affected me. But caring about the trend of the war every day destroyed my mood and made me not earn the money I should have earned.
The devaluation of the yen is a real pain for friends living in Japan, especially if they want to buy some imported things, and Japanese consumption does depend on imports a lot at first. But I don’t hold Japanese yen, so the depreciation of Japanese yen has little to do with me. I even hold a little dollar. If I go to Japan to play, the depreciation of the yen means that the dollar and the renminbi will appreciate relative to the yen. The purchasing power of my money has actually increased. However, it also affects my mood. It affected my life.
Some time ago, the epidemic situation in Tianjin was a bit tense. Our community was even blocked for 10 days. During those 10 days, I was in a bad mood at first. Later, when I thought about it, it was blocked. I had nothing to do, so I would ensure the amount of exercise, and walk around the community 5 times a day. However, after the risk was reduced and the community was free to enter and exit, I did not go out to exercise for a long time. The problem turned out not to be whether the community allowed entry or exit, but whether I wanted to go out or not.
So, paradoxically, we are worried about being hurt by uncertainty, but uncertainty has a 50%/50% probability to hurt us, but the fear, confusion and panic of uncertainty will hurt us 100%.
Therefore, many times, it is very counter-intuitive that in the face of an uncertain future, we should simply analyze what we can influence and what we cannot influence. For those that cannot be affected, you can basically ignore them. Because anxiety, doubt, depression don’t increase our influence on these things. However, anxiety, doubt, and depression can keep us from doing the things we can do if we can’t deal with it calmly.
Therefore, for a specific individual, in many cases, we can only manage our own mood first. The external things of materialism do not depend on our will. And our inner world, our inner drive, is entirely guided by our will. We can laugh at uncertainty, and we can’t say that we can live our life completely, but we can live a slightly better life than we can’t laugh at.
According to our conservative point of view, it may be too difficult to directly pursue a perfect result, we are all mortals, and there is no way to play god. But we can improve little by little, our abilities, our circumstances, our vision, our perception of the world, and most importantly, our mood.
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