These days are the graduation season, and the 2018 college students have more or less finished taking their graduation photos. For most students, this is probably the last thing to do in the ivory tower, and the most memorable thing.
I don’t know how many schools have postponed or simply cancelled the graduation photo process because of the epidemic. In the past few years when the epidemic was severe, various magical online graduation photos and in-game graduation ceremonies were also searched many times. I remember that my brothers and sisters in the last class were unable to complete the last part of the standard process because of the epidemic prevention and control, and finally had to leave the school hastily.
Online graduation has even developed into a whole industry
I was a relatively lucky class. When it was my turn to graduate, the epidemic just died down for a while, and the school announcement was held as usual. However, I am probably a little ungrateful myself, I just feel that a group of people huddled under the scorching sun in the south is too irritable, and I even thought about taking a leave to escape.
There are many reasons for this kind of thinking. The main reason is that when I was a junior, I had already recognized my future. So while others were staying at home or on campus, I had already run out to work.
Many of them are suffering and tortured. In the most difficult days, I even lived four jobs a day. I woke up in the morning and went to a coffee shop to do part-time jobs. In the afternoon, I went to the suburbs to teach elementary school students. Another online internship to give a report – and then make no money.
The life similar to 007 has made me subconsciously detached from the language environment of my student days. The third and a half years of my junior year, the four-year extension, and one and a half years of work and life have long made me a “social worker”.
Then and then, just like this year and today
When friends tell me what’s going on at school, my reaction is “Ah, so”. In other words, although I was still a college student, I felt that I was far away from college life. At that time, my thinking was roughly: as long as I can graduate, I don’t care what graduation photos are.
In the end, the people who pulled me back were the “children” I knew when I was working in the student council.
Speaking of children, in fact, they are juniors and juniors who are only one or two years younger than me. Most of them are the same age, and some are actually a little older than me. Because the work of the student union is mostly cumbersome, everyone often gets together to work and chat, and the relationship is even better than other friends.
I know that in the past few years, people have criticized the student union a lot – bureaucracy, collectivism, intrigue, wasting students’ time, and I have experienced it for almost three years myself. But it is precisely because of this that those who are willing to stand up and take responsibility under such pressure are often more valuable. After the big waves wash the sand, the friends who are still willing to play together are more or less deep friendships that share weal and woe.
Compared with the graduation photos, the meaning left by everyone seeing each other may be a little more. This is indeed the case. When I went back to take the graduation photo last year, although the sun was still hot, I was still happy. In addition to the fireworks I received, I was also fortunate to receive a steel plaque.
too heavy
I’m not a person who is very obsessed with the sense of ritual, and I don’t like numbness. The ideal graduation ceremony is probably when the school pays 2,000 yuan per person to travel, and then the tutors kick the graduates on the buttocks one by one and leave the school. Saying goodbye to each other and saying goodbye to each other is too heavy. Everyone shouted goodbye to each other, and then left unrestrainedly. The impression left on me may be more profound.
I know not everyone thinks this way, but if we have to prove it, sociologist Zygmon Bowman has a well-known theory of “liquid society” a few years ago, which can probably be taken out again.
The meaning of this theory applied to individuals is probably as follows: In modern society, there is no longer any eternal relationship. People meet at any time and may lose contact in the next second. Everyone has entered a fluid and liquid state. world.
For reference only, any misunderstandings belong to the author’s subjective interpretation. Although it seems a bit old-fashioned now, I always think this concept is very romantic. to the dismembered life.
Of course, this concept is not only romantic, but also quite cruel. The cruelty is that by choosing to accept a liquid relationship, you’re choosing to reject something pretty heavy in friendship – I could have gone back to my kids’ graduation this year, but ended up going silent.
There may be an element of escape, but I really don’t want to accept the fact that my friends are actually getting farther and farther. Especially seeing how they looked when they hadn’t walked out of the ivory tower, I couldn’t help but think that they might soon be beaten by the society like me, and I couldn’t say “Congratulations on graduation”.
A friend of the same class said that I didn’t show up that day, which made me a little chilling. What he said was a bit euphemistic. I don’t recommend everyone to follow me. If you find a theory, you will use it as an excuse for yourself.
I don’t know how many graduates this year will face the same predicament after graduation, and how many will be as eager to cut off contact with the school as I am. Maybe what your friend said is a little more human: you may be right, but they just came out of the ivory tower, don’t be too cruel to them.
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