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- When we are faced with a job that makes people feel boring, we might as well hold the mentality of “it will work in the future” and “there will be a chance to get a raise when you finish this thing”, and try to imagine how you can improve, or what you might get paid. After the motivation is clear, even if you are faced with a job that is not exciting, you can treat it as “your own work”. As long as you treat the work you don’t like as “your job”, you won’t be bound by negative emotions.
- To avoid this situation, you should remind yourself not to over-interpret other people’s words and not to overthink things. Write down your dissatisfaction with yourself or the company on a piece of paper, so that you can objectively analyze whether you are overinterpreting yourself, so as to help yourself out of delusions.
- The completion goal is set as 80% success, and the remaining 20% is left to the optimistic attitude of “the boat will naturally go straight to the bridge”. Through such thoughts, we can generate the strength to face difficulties, so that we can not be influenced by emotions and stimulate the energy to face difficulties.
- Subordinates who are denied by their bosses and feel their self-esteem hurt and their expectations fall short will have sequelae. The more narcissistic you are, the more severe the influence will be, and the longer it will be delayed. Narcissism is hard to let go of. Instead of insisting on letting go, don’t expect the other party to guess your own mind without authorization. “Do I have to be so clear before I do it? Can you be more proactive and proactive?” Don’t “expect” the other party to be proactive like this. When giving instructions, you should be as specific and clear as possible. If you are a subordinate, don’t think for yourself that “If you work overtime every day these days, even if this project is only 60% completed, the boss should be considerate.” Instead, you should share your vision about work and assignments. The more “people who are not easily influenced by emotions”, the better they know how to communicate with others and will not impose expectations on them without authorization. The point is not to have the expectation of “you should understand me”, but to communicate specific things.
- Excuses can be said to want to let the other party understand that things are out of frustration, in order to protect their behavior. But unfortunately, almost all excuses will make the other party unhappy. Just self-protection and self-justification, this self-centered attitude can be unsatisfactory and cause unpleasant emotions to the other party.
- REM sleep eases unpleasant emotions.
- Instead of “using” or “using less” mobile phones, it is better to spend more time watching and feeling things in the real world, which means paying more attention to the things in front of you. Such as reading books, magazines, or talking to real people. Leaving the office, looking at the sky and street views, taking a small trip on the rest of the day, etc., these real-world experiences outside the online world are very beneficial. In order to maintain mental health, it is ideal to obtain practical experience that suits you, rather than the goal of getting “likes” from others. The main point is that you should focus on your own practical experience rather than taking action to get “likes” from others.
- It’s not what happened in the past that we can’t change, but because we don’t think about who we want to be in the future, nothing will change.
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