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Not long ago, I read the first volume of ” Dialogue with God “, which mainly talks about personal confusion and the meaning of life. It is a high-end chicken soup for the soul.
The whole book is written in “dialogue style”, and the object of the conversation is “God”, so it is inevitable to read it a bit preachy, and it is not easy for you to refute it, after all, it is the tone of God. But in fact, the so-called “God” here is very similar to the “Tao” mentioned by Laozi. It has no substance and is extremely empty, and it can be given various interpretations. One of the explanations is “one’s own heart” – follow your heart, follow your own way.
In terms of reading experience, in addition to the awkward preaching tone, the other is blatantly long-winded. The “God” in the book often says “I have already said this, so I will say it again.” Well, maybe the chicken soup has to be boiled repeatedly to be mellow.
Tucao belongs to Tucao, except for the above-mentioned careful taste, this bowl of chicken soup is quite delicious, haha.
1. There is nothing necessary to do in life
“There is nothing necessary to do in life”, this is my favorite sentence in the whole book, and it has been set as the signature of this blog.
The mainstream culture of society has a standard template for a person’s life. Before the age of 18, study hard, try hard to get into a good university, earn money to buy a house after work, and then get married and have children. This is the so-called “doing the right thing at the right age”. . A life that deviates from this trajectory is not mainstream.
Regarding this set of mainstream narratives, there are more and more refutations on the Internet. But none of this sentence “There is nothing necessary to do in life” is comfortable to read. Because it does not deny the mainstream narrative, but returns to the origin, regardless of mainstream or non-mainstream, you can choose .
2. Pain comes from comparison, but who defines the dimension of comparison
The pains in life all come from comparisons, such as education, career, wealth, height, appearance, and even figure. But few people ask why these dimensions are compared and not others, and on these dimensions, who defines “good” and “bad” . Why is a 985 degree better than a 211 degree; why doctors and lawyers have higher social status than sanitation workers; why it is better to be thin than fat…
These are not defined by someone, but just a social concept, and the reason why this concept can continue to exist is that we have been educated by our parents, teachers, and guided by the media since childhood. Man is a product of his environment .
Recently, I re-read Jin Yong’s novel Yi Tian Tu Long Ji, and there is a good example. Zhang Wuji grew up on Binghuo Island and was ignorant of the world. As soon as the family returned to the Central Plains, they were forced to ask about the whereabouts of the golden lion king Xie Xun. Yin Susu lied and said “the villain Xie Xun is dead.” At this time, Zhang Wuji blurted out “the adoptive father is not dead.” Any 10-year-old kid who grew up in a normal social environment knows that it is just a lie. Here Zhang Cuishan is in stark contrast. He has a moral obsession. According to his logic, even if he dies, he will not reveal the whereabouts of Xie Xun, but he will never lie that Xie Xun is dead in order to survive. But he consoled himself very cleverly, the demon Xie Xun is dead, and now he is the kind Xie Xun, there is nothing wrong with it, it is not a lie. The comparison of Zhang Wuji and Zhang Cuishan’s behavior shows the influence of social environment.
Some definitions of “good” and “bad” seem to be explained by the scarcity of economics, such as wealth, the more occupied the better, at least the higher the material living standard. But if you think about it carefully, in modern Chinese history, there was a period of time when people were ashamed of being rich, and what they pursued was to have a decent root. This also shows that the definition of “good” and “bad” is dynamic in a large time frame.
The dimension of career is the most typical. In the past, public institutions and civil servants had the most face, and everyone wanted to get in. After the 1990s, the wind direction changed, and they went to the sea one after another. In the past 10 years, the big Internet companies have been the most powerful, but now these big companies have laid off employees one after another, making people panic, and starting a new round of “the end of the universe is the system.”
Why care if social attitudes change.
3. Everything is the result of thinking, create your own thinking and act
“You must get into a good university”, “You must have your own house”, “You must get married”, these are all thoughts. They don’t matter whether they are good or bad, but you need to distinguish where these thoughts come from, whether they are given to you by others or your own.
It may not be difficult to have your own thoughts, but it is difficult to act.
I don’t like going to work, I fantasize about getting rid of my assets and finding a rural life in a fifth-tier city, but I dare not take this step; I tell myself to be 100% honest, but I may turn around and talk to my boss about asking for leave Lie; I also told myself not to speculate, but saw the stock market soaring and plunged into it again…
Let go of the mainstream values, go back to the original point and choose again. It seems that you can do whatever you want, but in fact it is not. People’s pursuit of meaning is probably engraved in their DNA. But meaning needs to be created with action.
The last signature on this blog is a good way to sum up this paragraph: ” You have to live what you think, otherwise, sooner or later you will think what you live “.
It is very difficult to understand people’s life, and the author wrote this book after several ups and downs.
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