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△ 179｜I teach people to eat shit but you won’t learn, I teach people not to eat shit and you say I can’t teach
This title has been left in the draft box for more than half a month. I wrote a title that day and went to do other things. When I came back at night and wanted to write the content for the next day, I forgot the title again. If it weren’t for the sorting out just now, I can’t remember that I wrote such “timely” content.
I am a double standard person, and I sometimes feel that I am going too far. For example, when I talk to people, I think some people are talking nonsense, so I always ask them to give me the key points, or tell me the purpose of this conversation first, so as to avoid my acquiescence that this is a “waste of time” In the process of chatting, it enters the “power saving mode” – that is, the eyes are blank, nodding in agreement, ah, yes, yes, sure he is wrong, drinking too much tea, going to the toilet; but sometimes talking to other people , most people think that they are talking about something, but the fun is that the other party is also a person who “can’t talk about the main point for a long time”. In the nonsense”, you have to see how the listeners sum it up in their own way.
That’s why I say it’s a double standard, because there is no definition standard that can be presented in written records. It may be purely subjective: this person is “not as good as me”, so this person is talking nonsense, and he Communication is a waste of my time; this person is “better than me” and every time I talk to him, I’m energized, so even the homework is fun and philosophical.
I did have a profound review of my own “double standard”. In fact, it is not defined by “powerful”, but the other standard is more vague and obscure, and it is not easy to explain clearly.
When I used to be a severe time management patient, I would divide socialization into “effective socialization” and “ineffective socialization”, that is, whether this “socialization” will bring me cognitive gains. Using this as a standard, I will start to seriously screen and screen my social arrangements – I have a small mark on the calendar that only I understand – “?” often has this mark, which means “invalid social interaction”, You need to consume your own energy and time to make a scene. Because of the existence of this standard, I have “emotions” for each different social interaction. For example, this is a party that needs to be staged. Then I need to pay a large amount of emotional expenses in advance, and save this expense early. Come down, prepare and practice for this hilarity for several days in a row – because I know that after completing this “ineffective socialization”, I will be in a recovery period for several days, too lazy to see anyone other than me again. other human beings.
Because I felt in advance that socializing with this group of people is “nothing to learn”, so I don’t bother to delve into other people’s conversations and performances. I just need to be dutiful and show up on time, make a scene, smile, and drink too much tea. , The old go to the toilet. Over time, I separated myself from the outside world of social interaction— “I can’t learn anything anyway, so I’ll use this time to study hard”—this should be the highest level of self-deception for many people, and even to this day using this logic.
People always have the illusion that when someone summarizes the methodology, this knowledge point is their own. A little wiser will say “practice brings truth”, a wiser one will realize that it is a paradox to seek practice for a knowledge point, and a wiser one will find that the only purpose of a knowledge point is to After a person records it, he will somehow feel that he is enriched, and then immediately want to apply this knowledge in practice. As a result, the next time a pit he has never encountered, he will definitely jump into it instead of thinking about it. Knowledge point – because his pit is full of shit, and the pit in other people’s knowledge points doesn’t seem to have standardized details as to whether it is shit or urine.
He has to jump, because after jumping, he will have his own “knowledge points”. He’s not smart. The next time he sees a urinal, he thinks it’s not shit, it should be fine, but he still jumps in one breath. Go in; a little smarter, know that you can’t jump in a pit, then you must be careful next time you encounter a pit; if you are a little smarter, you suddenly realize that the knowledge point recorded in the past was originally used. Here; the smarter ones will summarize this experience, then modify it, and beautify the story of falling into the cesspool. I just fell into the puddle, and then summarize the knowledge points, and recycle it again. , to paralyze more people who feel that as long as they see the knowledge point, they seem to understand the rules of the world – until they encounter the first cesspool in their life, and then jump into it without hesitation.
However, I am a person who only likes to talk about half of it. I have fallen into a pit, and I do not beautify myself. I fell into a cesspool. I have clearly stated two methods: one is that you eat all the feces in the cesspool, naturally You can breathe through your nostrils – and you refuse to learn, saying I’m teaching you to eat shit; and then I say, then stop eating shit, relax, and then you can float – You said that what I said was nonsense. Isn’t this the truth that everyone understands?
Then have you ever done it? What the fuck I want to say is: You clearly saw the cesspool, so don’t jump into it, okay?
Hey, I found the reason for my “double standard” – because I pursued those knowledge points too hard in the past, I mistakenly thought that I had learned a certain knowledge point, that I had experienced other people’s experiences, and I could grow with others. harvested.
You think beautiful, do you think everyone else’s shit is for nothing? Shit!
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