inner game

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interpersonal and self

I’ve always felt like I was in a “delicate relationship” in a variety of ways: regrets, relationships, even myself. This subtlety often makes me feel like a failure, especially when it comes to complex relationships. Every time I make a decision due to impulsiveness or make other mistakes, I will always brood over it like a heavy stone on my heart, and every time I think about it, I will regret why I did it at that time.

Interacting with people is always stressful for me. Once the seemingly minor contradictions and conflicts arise, I always choose to escape. Such avoidance does not solve any problems, but makes the relationship more complicated. I understand that the more I do this, the more I will toss and turn, but I always feel that there is an invisible force hindering me from changing.

It went through many times like this, and suddenly fell into an impasse, but the friendship ended in a few days. The more you talk about the relationship, the easier it is to dissipate suddenly, and this sense of gap can make me remember and regret for a long time.

And because of that mindset, emotionally, everything is much more difficult. I always felt like it was impossible for me to have a normal relationship, especially when I considered my past failures and my fears and doubts about being in a relationship. Fear that the end result will be to hurt yourself.

I understand that this cycle of life has to be broken. Lately I’ve started to reflect on myself, trying to figure out what the problem is and how to fix it. I’ve come to realize that I can’t let past regrets and failures define my future. Life never stops, it doesn’t stop because of my hesitation or deep regret.

Change is a long and difficult process, but as long as I have the will and courage to change, everything is still possible. I hope that one day I can handle these delicate relationships better and become a more mature and well-rounded person.

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Technology quadrant : wrote two toys

https://github.com/Innei/jojoo

A Hooks and Context encapsulated on the upper layer of Jotai can use atoms to realize the centralized management of the minimum set state.

It is a brief discussion on the implementation of data hydration and persistent data (2) in NextJS RSC/SSR .

https://github.com/Innei/nest-http-prisma-zod

A NestJS + Prisma + Zod + Socket.IO scaffolding. Of course, integration tests for Prisma are also included, which is not available in most templates.

tool

There are many cooking tools, and Mac Studio likes to add one. Thanks for sponsoring https://twitter.com/thecalicastle .

But in some ways, Vercel is the biggest winner.

Activity

  • 9.2 Shanghai Mianji, and then went to the vicinity of Xintiandi together, had dinner and massage, and continued Amway NeoVim.

https://twitter.com/__oQuery/status/1697870833983930697

Viewing

  • she disappeared
  • Basic Law of Genius
  • in my name
  • super family

Recently, I want to discover a little interest, besides writing code. I plan to buy a midi keyboard and learn to play the piano. I really like the pure tone of the piano. I have listened to it for several years, and I especially like Qiu Youju ‘s music. I especially hope that one day I will be able to play his music.

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