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Knowing how some brains work can actually be very helpful for figuring out some things. For example, the fundamental operation of the brain is to “close” to reward and “away” from danger. And the weight of the latter is higher, which has evolved over tens of thousands of years. Even if technology develops so rapidly, it is impossible to change this state in the years we see. Then we must understand that this ancient relic is on the face. What unfavorable things will be done when the new technology is impacted.
For example, I recently had some deliberate sarcasm towards a friend. When I calmed down and thought about this problem, I found that my brain had labeled her as an “enemy”. So many times, in the face of her words, I subconsciously attacked instead of understanding. In this way, prejudice is formed, and when you want to communicate again, it is actually too late. It also left the surface that I had a conflict with her. In fact, my opinion of her stems from some differences in values, but now, every word of her makes me feel that it is a hostile expression, and I take a hostile state to fight back.
It is mentioned in “Efficient Brain Science” that in the face of this situation, there are some ways to make changes, for example, when the emotion is about to stand in the front, pay attention to it, and temporarily let it withdraw from the stage of the brain; for example, Label the emotions and feelings in your brain and mark them so that you can remind yourself; for example, re-evaluate, evaluate the relationship between me and her, evaluate the source of our conflict, and evaluate the next course of action.
In fact, writing it out is the easiest way to mark your emotions. It can also make you realize that you have a problem.
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