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A colleague is about to leave, and there are a lot of team activities. The script was killed on Monday, and the team has dinner tonight.
During the dinner, I talked about people E and I (extroverts and introverts). I am not very familiar with these two words, and it took me two seconds to react. This is also due to the fact that I heard that MBTI is metaphysics without karma (by drumming) a few days ago, which left some impressions.
I am a self-righteous I person who is also seen by others. I am most afraid of being cueed in social situations. Obviously I did not escape tonight. Some people even mentioned some embarrassing things during the first dinner together when the team merged at the beginning of the year. Although I have experienced it many times, I am still a little cramped when being cueed. If there is any difference compared with the first few years in the workplace, these cramps will not become my troubles now, and I will not struggle with them afterwards, and I will not try to change myself, that is, I have fully accepted my character background.
I believe that everyone has had the experience of trying to change themselves, and I am the same, but why? Why haven’t you heard of E-people trying to change themselves into I-people? The reason is that under the same conditions, person E is more popular and comes with corresponding social dividends (such as more opportunities). Such that E is seen as an advantage and I is a disadvantage. Advantages and disadvantages are originally just a utilitarian judgment, but over time, value judgments are attached and some stereotypes are formed.
In recent years, every time I see online discussions about gender issues between men and women, I feel that empathy will never be possible. Boys can’t feel the situation of girls, and vice versa.
I think people E and I have similar issues. As mentioned above, someone mentioned some embarrassing things at the New Year’s dinner tonight. These things may not be embarrassing to E, or it’s embarrassing but it doesn’t matter to mention them. But for I people, it is a burden. Conversely, person E will also feel that because of the existence of person I, this place cannot be brought up, and it is lifeless. In this scenario, who is at fault? None, it just doesn’t fit.
After the dinner party tonight, there will be a second session. In the past, I would try my best to overcome social fear and participate in it, but now I refuse directly, unless it is a project I like very, very much. I thought this would be good for each other, person E doesn’t need to take care of person I’s emotions and let go of hi, and person I doesn’t have to pander to person E to make himself miserable.
People are very complicated, not simply E and I. E and I are not binary oppositions of 0 or 1, but a continuous spectrum of 0-1. Most people may be around 0.5, but E can be I ( The word that impressed me the most at the dinner today). Generally, teams encourage diversity, but if you observe carefully, you will find that it is a diversity around 0.5, such as 0.6, 0.7 (determining the team atmosphere) for many, and 0.3, 0.4 (diversity) for a few. There may not be many bosses who can really accept 0 and 1, because that is not “diversity”, but “destructive”.
Finally, I’ve run out of social credits this week, please leave me alone for two days.
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