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△ 285｜Stupid, bad, empathy
If there is a coordinate system reference, there must be some kind of linear function of these three things in the title, that is, the more stupid people are, the more likely they are to become bad, and the more bad people are, the more likely they are to have empathy.
This title originally had a backstory because a WeChat friend rushed to me last night to ask me about “legal issues”. He said that when he unpacked the package, he found that the clothes in the package were damaged, and asked if he could find a merchant to return it. Probably because I didn’t reply to him for a long time, so he continued to add: It was because when he opened the package with a knife, he accidentally cut the clothes inside, so it should be possible to return it. If you want to return it, what kind of words should you use? . I still haven’t replied, because I really can’t find “exact” advice, so I can only put myself into this reality, if I cut the clothes inside with a knife when I unpacked – but , why would I use a knife to unpack the clothes wrapped in the courier bag?
After another meeting, he continued: I told the seller that the package was broken when I opened it. This seller is really struggling. I like him. Seeing that he entered the “summary” stage, I replied: You see, I don’t need to come up with bad ideas, which means that other businesses have seen a lot. He continued to reply: There must be a lot of people like me, it’s really not easy to sell something.
“Hey, I don’t want to either.”
“Please be merciful and forgive me.”
Later, I was too lazy to go back, he fulfilled his little wish, and I also watched an interesting one-man show.
I also did a self-reflection on my “personality”. It seems that after graduating from law, the most cases I “take over” are all these bullshit things – and they regard the law as evading my responsibilities and exploiting loopholes. Broken thing. For example, if you accidentally scratched the other party’s car when you were parking, and asked if there was any way to identify it as the other party’s responsibility, because the other party’s tires were pressed when they parked; The takeaway is not made according to the order, ask if you can ask the merchant to refund or ask them to re-deliver the original order; or, AppleCare+ is about to expire, can you deliberately break the phone and say that when you are riding the phone Accidentally fell out of my pocket, then went to the Apple store to replace a brand new phone, and asked me if I could help see the loopholes that can be drilled in the AppleCare+ service agreement…
If possible, I should re-apply for a social account and name it “Petty Cheap Assistant”, but the key is that I can’t charge. Maybe we can collect more “truths of human nature”. But there is no right or wrong in these cases, the people who consulted me earnestly, and the life creed they hold of “I can’t suffer.” This is just a guide for survival.
A few days ago, a student studying in Japan posted a “strategy” on Xiaohongshu. He received a homeless meal at 6 pm in Higashi Ikebukuro Park in Japan, and then commented “Come on, international students.” Underneath this news, there are various comments that think he is “shameless, and greedy for this little cheapness”. Of course, because of this information alone, it is impossible for us to fully understand the incident itself-perhaps, it is really a desperate international student who can only temporarily feed on the homeless food provided by the Japanese government-then why does he still Can you take out your phone and publish a little red book? Although there are many self-contradictory situations, the one-sided “shameless conclusion” in the comments makes one wonder if it is a person who has become a habit of picking wool in the cabinet, and who also adheres to the principle of “going out without picking it up” in foreign countries. What about the life creed of “Even if I lose it”?
When I was in school, when I came home from self-study in the evening, I would meet an old man walking with a flashlight. At first, I thought he might not be able to see the road, so he would walk with a flashlight. But every time I encounter him, I also feel that his behavior is a bit “weird”. Instead of shining the beam on the road in front of him, he is holding a flashlight and dangling around like he is looking for something. Sometimes When encountering people like me walking by at night, he will also raise his flashlight at the passers-by to determine if it is coming – so there is another interesting paradox here, if he really can’t see the road clearly, It is necessary to look at the face of passersby to determine whether it is coming, so why does the flashlight flicker when he walks, isn’t it more dazzling?
Fortunately, the funeral was in the morning, but if the funeral was held at night, the currency of the Bank of Heaven and Earth was sprinkled along the way. He must have picked it up and scolded it all the way.
I have seen him quarreling with people. The reason for the quarrel is probably that he found some cardboard boxes on the side of the road that no one wanted, so he planned to go home and take a fixed rope to pack these cardboard boxes and take them away. As a result, when he came back, he found that someone had already started to pack these cartons. He angrily scolded the other party, saying that these cardboard boxes were his own. It turned out that the other party was the user of these cartons. This is a moving company. After processing the goods, it is ready to come back to handle these large boxes. Obviously, the moving companies themselves have to recycle the boxes. The old man refused, saying that he saw these cardboard boxes first, and that they were public if they were thrown on the street, and that these cardboard boxes belonged to him. After arguing for a long time, the moving company couldn’t beat him, so they said they would give him one or two cardboard boxes to send him away. Unexpectedly, the old man opened his pants towards the cardboard box and started to urinate – “Take it, take it if you want.” He shouted, and seeing that no one stopped him, he took out the rope he prepared Start packing all the cartons.
Both bad and stupid, he is actually very empathetic. I have seen him feed stray dogs, take the leftovers he made at home, and feed the surrounding stray dogs in a fixed place. So many times, when he was “patroling” with a flashlight at night, a few dogs would follow him from a distance, as if to protect him.
Going back to the “coordinate axis” at the beginning, stupidity, badness and empathy together form a three-dimensional coordinate axis. When a person operates in this axis, there will inevitably be some specific linear functions, such as we all know “” Either stupid or bad” or “stupid and bad”, stupid people are not necessarily bad? But when they become stupid, they will use some ways to harm the interests of others to protect their own vested interests, which is also a kind of “bad”; bad people are not necessarily stupid? As long as they’re smart and flexible, they won’t do stupid things to achieve their bad ends.
Why do stupid people have higher empathy?
For example, let’s assume that there is a poor child here, a woman, the daughter of a single-parent family, a minor, who likes music and loves nature, but unfortunately she has a terminal illness that cannot be cured. All we can do now is reduce the pain in her last moments of life through medical means. But the problem is that this pain relief medical resource is very scarce. She can participate in the ranking of resources, but she is very low. However, we can still use resources to remove a child who is already eligible and will receive this pain-relieving medical resource in order to be removed from the list and replaced by this little girl. If you were the manager of this medical resource, would you make this decision?
As a result, in this test, there are very few people who will choose to use resources and adjust the order, because if they save the little girl, it means that there is another child who suffers the same way and will lose his eligibility to be saved. And that ordered list is a relatively fair rule, and people shouldn’t break the rules in order to save one person, or even deprive others of their rights.
Of course, in the simplified Chinese network environment, if we add a premise, the first one is a child of a wealthy family, the male, the father is a chaebol and the mother is a reproductive tool that gave birth to 6 children. At this time, I believe that a large number of people will decide to change the order of treatment.
Treating lists as rules and respecting order—a sense of morality, which is opposed to empathy, complements the inherent limitations of empathy toward an individual. The higher the sense of morality, the weaker the empathy will be, and the more the empathy generated by the individual will be put back into the actual environment in which he lives for recalculation and consideration; on the contrary, the weaker the sense of morality, the stronger the empathy will be. Strong, this kind of empathy will create a frog-like limitation for an individual, especially when there are more “conditions”, the more they can calculate results through empathy. Poverty versus rich, weak versus strong. The stronger the contrast, the more it can inspire a person’s empathy, which can then be disguised as a so-called “moral sense.”
This is a mistake we have been making, thinking that the moral police in Simplified Chinese —the star is not allowed to cheat today, and the man is not allowed to insult a woman tomorrow—is not actually driven by a sense of morality, but a disguised moral empathy.
Well, this way, we can push back the reason why stupid and bad people have higher empathy – because the higher their empathy, the lower their moral sense , they will not use morality as an internal drive to restrict their external behavior. We have always misunderstood that the more empathetic people are, the more they will consider the feelings of others, so they will not act beyond the bounds of morality – on the contrary, the more empathetic people, the more they pay attention to their own interests. “Benefit distribution”, they will empathize with the weak, in fact, they are empathizing with their own weakness and lowliness. That’s why I’ll be more just and righteous, and I will find an excuse for myself to be rude and shameless when fighting for my own interests – this is the reason for the birth of the so-called “double standard” – because I am weak, and you should all let me.
Under the constraints of low moral behavior, they will inevitably do stupid and bad things, and at the same time they will empathize with those stupid and bad people. You sympathize with those stupid and bad Dabai, and they turn out to be the ones who have the power to kill you – and it’s not easy to continue to sympathize with them.
“Why do you cut the courier bag with a knife? Isn’t this common sense?”
“He didn’t put a warning sign on it. How does the consumer know that knives cannot be used? He should take this into account, so this is the problem of the business itself.”
“Ah yes yes yes.”
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