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△ 176｜The fun of giving up food because of choking is that people are not just choked to death
When I was eating just now, I suddenly had this strange inspiration. It’s because when I was holding chopsticks, I remembered a very boring “rumour” – the distance of a person holding chopsticks indicates that they are going to marry abroad or stay with the old king next door. However, this logic cannot stand scrutiny, because people will soon discover that holding chopsticks far away may not necessarily be married to a foreign country, but may also be married to the old Zhang who sells fried dough sticks at the door.
However, if the rumor about “holding chopsticks far and near” is related to “be buried close to home or die in a foreign country after death”, then this rumor is somewhat “curse”. Because this is not like a rumor like “don’t step on the manhole cover on the road”, people can avoid the manhole cover. However, everyone has to use chopsticks to eat. It is unlucky to change the way of thinking here, and it will anger many people – but if there is such a rumor, will there be people who don’t plan to eat because of choking? ?
Fortunately, these rumors are all born due to certain behaviors, good and bad things are said by people, and they will naturally consider “risk” and “operability”. Of course, there are other rumors about chopsticks. However, these rumors will be self-defeating as a person grows up-unless he encounters a person who really needs to beg and wander when he grows up, then he may think of this rumor on a certain night sleeping in a bridge hole, but that It’s too late – at least he can’t reproduce any more heirs, and tell his descendants that the rumor is true.
Recently, there was an interesting incident in the studio that made people speechless, but it was worth digging out and talking about. A colleague went to the hospital for an infusion of heatstroke for two days, and no one knew about it. It was because when my wife and I went to the studio on Thursday, I found out that this employee hadn’t come to work at all in the past few days. I was a little angry at the moment. Although the working hours of the studio are completely free and flexible, this kind of work has been done for several days. Not going to work without saying anything, still makes us wonder if it’s too lenient for the employees in the office.
Immediately, I asked in the group and reaffirmed that I was free to commute to and from get off work, but at least let us know the reason for the leave and whether it was because of business. To be honest, if an employee leaves the studio without any reason to have any accident, then it will be a bit annoying to discuss whether it is working time and whether it should be calculated according to the work-related injury-although the person concerned knows that he is not injured due to work-related injuries. . But if an employee falls into a coma, his family will be tossed about it for the rest of his life.
In the end, the colleague told me privately that it was not that he did not ask for leave, but that he was “embarrassed” because he was afraid that he would be scolded. Because for several days, his living habits and common sense have been criticized by us for a long time. So when he suffered from heat stroke, he felt that if he told us that he had heat stroke again, we would definitely criticize and educate him, so he simply killed him first and then played it.
For a while, I didn’t get caught up in this logic. I believed it myself – because I was afraid of being buried, I would rather bear the pressure and responsibility myself – but I was not willing to bear it silently, so I still had to Send a very suggestive circle of friends, or complain and complain to friends around you. And it will definitely emphasize “don’t tell them, I’m afraid they will worry” – well, when I write this process down, I feel so familiar: this is the standard “moral kidnapping SOP” !
For a long time, I felt that “giving up food because of choking” is not stupid, but a kind of “bad”. Can one not eat or drink? Of course not, this is common sense that everyone knows. If the person I love is sick and has no appetite and can’t eat, then I don’t have to die in a hurry. But there are some people who choose to “abandon food because of choking”, because they are very afraid of “choking to death”, and they keep claiming to others that eating food will cause choking to death, how terrifying choking is, the person who choked is rolled his eyes and died Yes! At this time, someone will definitely stand up and tell them that they will not choking to death if they eat carefully, but these people who give up eating because of choking will definitely insist on the horror of choking. Over time, people develop the necessary sympathy for them, comforting them and being the one to feed them, telling them that as long as they are there, they won’t be choked to death.
Once one day, they stop comforting and caring for them because of the reason of “you already know how to eat, and you will not choking to death now that you eat by yourself”, at this time, they will definitely protest by “abandoning food because of choking”, by rejecting Eating in a way that creates unnecessary empathy in the other person again—and then happily kidnaps the other person.
Of course, those who use morality to kidnap do not necessarily know when morality is kidnapped, but they just happen to find that “this logic” can always make the other party compromise and surrender. That’s why I said that I can understand the “logic” of that colleague – he is afraid of being scolded, but he is really eager for someone to pay attention to him, so in this process, there will be a buffer zone. Just like the logic of “abandoning food due to choking”, even if he loses food for a day, he will not starve to death, but it is enough to make the other party feel worried and painful. Needing attention and fear of being blamed are not opposites, but symbiotic existence under an emotion, and this symbiosis is the fertilizer that nourishes the flourishing of the buffer zone.
The reason why I am so familiar with this middle ground is that I used to be a very moral kidnapping person, because I grew up in a family full of moral kidnapping games, but that’s something else.
There are indeed many people in this world who “give up food because of choking”. You can observe them further, and they must have someone who wants to be kidnapped by “abandoned food”. But in this process, it is inevitable that there will be people who are “unsophisticated”. They provide a method that “will never be choked again”, so that they will no longer be afraid of being choked to death. It seems that they are blocked from a way that can be used to kidnap others – but fortunately, there are many ways to die, not just choking.
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