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In summer, due to the hot weather, the air conditioner is usually turned on. The air conditioner in the next door may be relatively old, and it will vibrate violently after a period of operation. The vibration mixed with noise is transmitted to me through the wall. It’s not too loud to fall asleep, but it does disturb the falling asleep process a bit. At first, when this voice sounded, I was quite resistant, and I could clearly feel some negative emotions surging in my heart. Later, I remembered a short story mentioned by the author in the Fogg behavior model :
After setting the air conditioner to turn off at a fixed time, you will often be woken up due to the loud sound of the air conditioner turning off. The author once wanted to change to a better air conditioner, but later he used this Timing as a Trigger for meditation, so that he had a clear time period for meditation relaxation. In the end, he even felt quite happy to be woken up, and then to meditate and relax.
The author calls this habit “pearl habit” (pearls are formed because oysters are stimulated by the invasion of foreign objects (sand grains, parasites), and then secrete nacre, which wraps the irritants layer by layer. Grow up and become a pearl), which is something annoying in essence, and through some skills, turn it into a beautiful thing.
Inspired by this story, I did the same thing and meditated when this sound came out and it worked really well. If I fall asleep faster, I get a good night’s sleep; if not, at least I get a meditative experience. In this way, not only did the negativity dissolve, but it also helped form a new habit.
Then I broadened my search to see things in my life that I can’t change but that show up in certain situations. Because the community I live in has been built for a long time and the properties are not good enough, some places have begun to decline. For example, the roads I walk every day are not smooth, and some bricks will loosen when I step on them. This experience once made me very troubled. Then I made a mapping. Whenever I walked on this “broken road”, I reminded myself to “draw” to help develop the habit of drawing every day.
As said in the courage to be hated , what matters is not what is given, but how to use what is given. From another perspective, those bad things that cannot be changed may bring us unexpected gains.
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