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I completed the wedding with my wife on National Day. It took at least a year from planning to completion for this major event in my life, and it involved the energy of hundreds of people. It is worth recording my feelings.
A wedding is a very energy-intensive affair, involving the preparation of the two families for a long time. Conflicts within a family may be aroused during this process, trivial matters may lead to disputes, and grievances from a long time ago are involved; the values between the two families will also be tested. In hindsight, some people’s relationship will be better because they’ve been through this big event together, and some people’s relationship may be worse – because things didn’t go well in some places.
Families and relatives are not people to choose, so coordinating such a team to complete a large project is itself a very complicated thing.
First of all, take advantage of memory to summarize some experiences of organizing a wedding as perfect as possible:
- Everything that can be done in advance should be prepared from the time of the wedding, which will take at least 3 months. include:
- Wedding photo shoot (requires an appointment)
- Tailor-made suits (usually one month)
- Rent a wedding dress (or buy it, also in advance)
- Book a hotel (at least half a year in advance for auspicious days)
- Determine the schedule for photography, video, emcee, and makeup
- Find a reliable wedding
- Wait, as long as you have the conditions to start doing it now, start doing it immediately, don’t say “wait for this matter to be prepared a month in advance” is enough, what can be done now is done now
- Determine the overall process, have an online document, and synchronize information with all participants, just like project management. For example, what should be done at each time, what objects/materials are needed, who is the main person in charge, contact number, etc.
- The wedding process is carried out in every detail, such as where to change the tea, who is present, whether the cup is ready, whether the tea is ready, what to say, what to do, who is in charge of this link, and so on.
- Every event must be assigned to one person in charge, not more than one. For example, at the check-in desk, you can arrange 3 people, including the guide (seating), responsible for receiving red envelopes and recording gifts (very important, you must not receive anonymous red envelopes), substitute shifts (not only one person can be arranged so that the check-in place has no time to go to the toilet) and many more. However, there must be a person in charge of the check-in office. If there is something, call the person in charge and arrange for the person in charge. Tell him his responsibilities. Without a clear responsible person, many tasks cannot be implemented. The on-site team must also have a person in charge. Any problems on the site will be directly addressed to him. For example, if there are guests who are temporarily participating and there is no place, the person in charge of the site must be resolved. The person in charge must find a reliable and conscientious person, otherwise there will be chaos. Synchronized to all those who are preparing for the wedding, and who to call if there is a problem in any link.
- Seating problem: Invite people to the wedding. Once the guests are confirmed to attend, be sure to ask how many people will come, and if you bring children, how old are the children. (The hotel generally adds a baby chair for free but cannot add a seat). Try to avoid the embarrassing situation of having guests come and not find their seats, or find their seats occupied after arriving. (It’s embarrassing that we encountered an embarrassing situation where there are guests who have no place to eat)
- Don’t complain when you encounter tasks during the wedding execution process, just think about how to solve the problems. It is normal to encounter some people who have tasks and lose things and forget the process. It is useless to get angry and complain. I have never complained after knowing these things, and immediately started to do the remedies again.
- Allow enough time, because it is almost impossible for the whole process to develop as planned (we just canceled the location shooting part to make other parts smooth)
- Correct your mentality, who is the most important thing in this wedding, who is it for, and want to understand this issue, and then other issues will depend on whether these people will be happy or not.
- The “customs” of the seven aunts and the eight aunts have been removed. Readers of this blog certainly don’t think that “once the bride’s feet fall” will make the couple unhappy, right? According to my experience in helping other people prepare for weddings and my own wedding, at every wedding, there will be N people who call in the middle and say, “Oh, you didn’t follow the rules! Brides can’t xxx, brides can’t xxx” “What time is the departure time? A few points”, “No one outside the marriage room can enter, and photographers can’t enter!”. These people are just like terrorists who come to sabotage weddings. I drag any aunt in our village and she can tell us some customs that no one has ever seen or heard of. It’s fine if you don’t know these customs. If you know you don’t follow them What these people say is still heartbreaking. So, my suggestion is to go back to 8, not for these relatives or outsiders, but for both parents and my wife (for me), are these customs important to them? If it is important, then strictly follow it; if it is not important, these people will say whatever they like. To communicate well with family members, any customs and habits that jump out of the middle should be inaudible.
- The more people who come to help, the better. Arrange jobs for more reliable people. Don’t be embarrassed. It’s enough to thank them afterwards, and remember their favors. Unreliable people might as well not come.
- As the host, guests from afar need to be well entertained.
- The quality of the wedding determines the quality of the entire wedding. Be sure to look for it, but I think the water is very deep in this industry. Fortunately, my uncle is in this business, and my wedding was arranged by him, which was very successful.
- Dare to judge, many problems can be solved with money, don’t be too entangled and spend too much energy. For example, if there are temporary guests to attend a wedding banquet, it seems that it is better to add a table directly than to arrange the seats if there is not enough space.
In fact, no matter who it is, the answer to the eighth question must be his lover. This is very important.
There are too many things involved in a wedding, and there must be some disagreements between the two families. This is a test for the combination of the two families, and it is also a test for young couples to see if they can coordinate their families well. I just finished the wedding, I think if the wedding can be done harmoniously, then it will not be a problem to live happily in the future.
The wedding seems to be laborious and laborious. My mentality is to prepare everything and experience it with the mentality of enjoying the process. It is an opportunity to deepen your relationship with your brothers (you have to ask everyone for help, teamwork), an opportunity for dual family integration, an opportunity to test the views of young couples and parents on both sides, and an opportunity for you to get to know each other’s family members The opportunity is also an opportunity to deepen the relationship with his wife.
No matter what the wedding looks like, as long as these people are satisfied with the answer to question 8, it will be a success.
I am still very satisfied with my wedding. Although it is very tiring, it makes me feel very satisfied. This wedding also reminds me that there are so many people who care about me, and let me know how hard it is all this. Also met a lot of reliable people. For example, our makeup artist, who has hardly eaten since 2 am, still does her makeup meticulously during the toasting session at the last wedding (the last session, which will end soon), and the last dressing room and the first makeup are meticulous. To the same degree, I suddenly felt that I had to become such a meticulous person in my work).
Finally, a wedding trip is also a good option. Happy readers!
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