Original link: https://blog.shuiba.co/i-am-satisfied-with-my-life
When it comes to life satisfaction, we have to mention a formula:能力>欲望. Thanks to my tireless thinking and actions, my life has gradually simplified over the years. In fact, this is also to save more energy to deal with the growth of the baby, and also to leave more space for self-examination, so that there is room to face uncertainty. As the saying goes, “keep things unchanged” may refer to this state – you can be calm in the face of change.
I once complained on my blog about a day when Popo was not yet half a year old and a stay-at-home mom had no time for herself even if someone helped. Now Popo is three and a half years old, and she has experienced a lot in the middle. We are running in a little bit. As a little guy who has just arrived in this world, she has gradually adapted to our family’s way of life. Brother Dou and I have also grown from a relaxed and comfortable two. The world calmed down and began to enjoy family happiness. A while ago, I wanted to say that I was still dissatisfied, that it was very difficult to ask Popo to take a bath, and he was in a hurry to cook when he got home from the park. So I adjusted the itinerary, stopped going to the park, and went straight home after school to bathe and cook, killing two birds with one stone and killing two birds with one stone, don’t be too happy. Because I am extremely satisfied with my current living arrangement, I came here to spread some positive energy, offset my previous complaints, and tell myself that everything will be fine.
| My day (Popo three-and-a-half-year-old version) |
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| 07:30-09:00 Wake up, wash up, have breakfast, get ready to go out |
| 09:00-09:30 Send baby to school |
| 09:30-10:00 Go to work, have a little me-time before work |
| 10:00-16:00 Enjoy work |
| 16:00-17:00 Fitness in the park |
| 17:00-17:30 Pick up baby and go home |
| 17:30-18:00 Bathe the baby and bathe yourself |
| 18:00-19:00 Prepare dinner and eat dinner |
| 19:00-20:30 Rest, read picture books to the baby, play games with the baby, and let her watch TV by herself, my me-time |
| 20:30-21:30 Brush teeth, do housework, get ready for bed |
| 21:30-22:30 Chat before bed, sleep |
Thanks to the new nursery school’s emphasis on outdoor sports, the need to go to the park after school is greatly reduced. Po Po is now in the school yard every day, playing for an hour in the morning, an hour in the afternoon, and two hours of outdoor activities every day. The old mother is satisfied. I think that the choice of this nursery school played a decisive role in the first place, and the other point was that the parents did not have a tight schedule for work. That’s why I’m able to run to the park after work to get off work out, first with skipping rope, and more recently with freehand training. After practicing profusely, I went to pick up Popo to take a bath after school, and the process was extremely silky. Washed and fragrant leisurely cook a meal, because there is plenty of time to better balance nutrition and deliciousness, I will not be in a hurry when Popo comes to me, anyway, we have time! If it was before, I would go to the park every day after school to play until 6:30, and it would be 7:00 when I got home. Not to mention whether Po Po is in a hurry or not, I am hungry myself, so I just want to get something to eat. Nutritionally balanced? However, I did not completely “kill” Popo’s park activities. Instead, I designated every Friday as “Park Day”. I told my friends who used to play with me to see you on Friday. My partner can’t beat his baby and he still comes to the park every day. In short, it’s great to get together on Friday. On Friday, I also gave myself a “holiday”, and I came back from the park to eat whatever I wanted. I just recently stocked up on some delicacies from China, and I had instant noodles after I finished eating. In this way, there is grasping and releasing, neither grasping too tightly nor letting go too much, grasping without tension, and without anxiety about letting go, isn’t it beautiful.
After dinner, spend more time with the baby if you have spare energy, and play by yourself when you are tired. Basically, picture book games can be played from Monday to Wednesday, and began to show fatigue on Thursday, and basically lay flat on Friday. Under the current arrangement, I have plenty of time to rest at night, so I am willing to spend more time with my baby, because me-time is enough. And Friday is also the previous schedule. It was eight o’clock after dinner, and I had to call Popo to take a bath before taking a two-second break. Not to mention Popo didn’t want to move, I didn’t want to move, two “tiring” people The tug of war is incredible. Eventually we broke up after we both ran out of the last ounce of patience. The current arrangement has fundamentally eliminated this problem, so our mood can be maintained at a happier level, and the parent-child relationship is better. And doing so has an even greater benefit – it is easy to grasp the time to fall asleep. There is no difficult task to complete from dinner to bedtime, and Popo and I are both relaxed. After playing, you can go to bed by brushing your teeth and changing diapers. The operation is simple so there is no delay. Generally speaking, I sleep with Po Po, and I wake up first in the morning, but it also depends on the length of sunshine that day. If you stay in the sun for too long, you will be tired and sleepy, and you will not wake up. The normal sunshine time on weekdays is closer to the standard sleep time. Occasionally I will stay up late, especially when I feel that me-time is not enough, I will sacrifice sleep time in exchange for “undisturbed time”. While it may seem like a waste of time, it has proven numerous times that I need this time to maintain my mental health.
All in all, life is great now, and I’m happy every day. More importantly, I know that the days are going to get better, which is a wonderful feeling.
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