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There is a question on the Zhihu platform: What truths did you not understand when you were young, but you only understand when you grow up? Soon after, the question quickly heated up, triggering a large number of replies and discussions from netizens. One of the answers got quite a lot of likes. The main idea of this answer is to express “unreasonable people always bully reasonable people, this world is too unreasonable”. In fact, I am afraid that many people will not be able to recognize a reality in their entire lives. The world itself is not fair, or even there is no fairness at all. Tear it to shreds, not even a little bit of dregs will be left for you.
Many families have strict discipline on their children since they were young, hoping that their children will grow up to be reasonable, well-behaved, hardworking and brave good people; they have been educated by their parents since they were young: there are good and bad people, and there are right and wrong things. After I grew up and suffered a lot, I finally realized that the society only admits defeat or wins, and it is not a place to pursue any kind of openness and righteousness.
A common characteristic of most reasonable people is that they are too serious, too serious, and too entangled in whether things are right or wrong. For them, people or things in the world are completely distinct between good and bad. If something is right, it is right, and if it is wrong, it is wrong. They believe that this is the development model and rules that society should follow. But in this world, in most cases, the unreasonable will drive the reasonable to nowhere, and eventually bad money will drive out good money.
Therefore, what we need to know is that the underlying operating logic of the world is the cruel survival of the fittest and the law of the jungle. First of all, we need to have kind thoughts in our hearts and not take the initiative to harm others; at the same time, we must also have a set of vajra means to resist the harm of evil people, which means “both the heart of a Bodhisattva and the vajra means”.
There have been studies in social psychology that show that people are like this. If you are not tough enough, you are the one who is the best to bully. Anyone can mock and humiliate you, and anyone can take advantage of you; When sharing, you are excluded, and in the end you become a collective victim of bad money. It is impossible to get along with equals by forbearance and humiliation everywhere, and it will only become the laughing stock in the eyes of others, the object of ridicule, and even self-inflicted humiliation!
When faced with any unfair treatment, those who blindly accept death will definitely suffer a lot. Whatever way someone treats you, you repay him in the same way. There is a famous saying: How a person becomes vulgar starts from the moment he despairs of society.
There is a concept in mathematics called “negative negative is positive”, a positive number multiplied by a negative number, the result is a negative number, a negative number multiplied by a negative number, the result is indeed a positive number. This principle is extended to sociology. When we are a human being, we should be reasonable when facing reasonable people; The truth is told to civilized people, when facing hooligans, one must be even more hooligan than him. Don’t naively think that lowering your politeness can bring you the good results you imagined. Continuous tolerance will only lead to more arrogance and further compress your own living space. We must be angry when we should be angry. We must know that our heart is kind, but at the same time it is not easy to mess with, so that we can better protect our reasonable rights and interests.
In society, a small number of people are not punished when they gain priority by unscrupulous means. Then, it will play a wrong guiding role for others, and others may shake their bottom line, then smart people will use their talents to fight for interests, and mediocre people will take risks in order to fight for interests. In economics, this phenomenon is called: “bad money drives out good money”. In society, it is: “Bad people eliminate good people.” In the face of interests, honest people are timid and do not express themselves well, but they are eliminated; the rest are unscrupulous and opportunistic, but become winners.
As Yu Hua said: “When we treat the world fiercely, the world suddenly becomes gentle.” A person without a bottom line of temper is like a country without strong armed forces. To be a person, one must have the strength to turn the table, but also the quality of not to turn the table; one must have a heart like a Bodhisattva, and one must have the skills of a diamond! Finally, I would like to give you the most reasonable words that Freud said: “Anyone who bullies you for the first time is essentially testing your bottom line. The second time is your choice, and the third time you deserve it.”
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