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In our hometown in Shandong, there are the most rules. It is criticized that women do not sit at the table, but this is an old practice, and the new generation is on an equal footing. In the past, especially in rural areas, there was indeed a phenomenon of not serving the table, but there were also objective reasons. Men eat and drink together, and it is really inappropriate for women to sit together at the same table.
There are also objective reasons. There are many rules in the countryside. Because there are too many people, a person must be very decent in order to get along in the village. Otherwise, people will laugh at him.
Xu Haofeng commented on “Early Spring and February”, in which Xiao Jianqiu, played by Sun Daolin, ran to the widow’s house at every turn, especially going to school hand in hand with the widow’s 8-year-old daughter. Teacher Xu said it was very uncomfortable to watch.
According to the rules of old Beijing, if it is not his own daughter, he cannot hold hands in the street.
Any well-behaved adult man must avoid suspicion when he is with girls over 4 years old. It is impossible to hold his little daughter on his knees like in Rou Shi’s original novel, nor is it possible to hold his little daughter in his arms like in the movie. Take to the street hand in hand.
In formal Taiwanese companies, if men and women are on business trips, especially if the male leader and female subordinates are traveling together, the administrative department will book air tickets and accommodation, and it is guaranteed that they will not be on the same flight or in the same hotel. To follow the rules.
Therefore, we should see the good side of the rules, the necessary side.
In our hometown in Shandong, when relatives and friends come to the door and say goodbye, they are sent downstairs, not to the door, not to the elevator or stairs, but to the downstairs. Turn around when you can’t see it.
If you are sent downstairs by relatives and friends, the driver should open the window, bid farewell to the owner repeatedly, and after the car starts, honk the horn to indicate that I am leaving.
These rules make up our lives and are what make us human.
The Jews believe that when a person is sick, if one person comes to visit, he will take away 1/60 of his illness, and if 60 people come to visit, this person will be fine.
If a person has no rules, he will become a beast.
Xu Haofeng said that old Beijingers, when talking about business, would never talk while walking, as that would disrespect the person who was talking about it. Be sure to sit down, even if you are sitting on the threshold or on a rock, you must sit down and speak. In case there is no place to sit, what should I do? I put my hands on the wall or the telephone pole and said.
Suddenly, I felt that it was very unruly to talk to people while using the computer.
I remember a Beijing aunt said to the neighborhood committee who knocked on the door at night:
Knocking on the door in the middle of the night to send a notice was only done in the past when there was a funeral.
Once the rules are broken, people’s hearts will be even worse.
In the past, there were many rules in the backstage of the theater troupe, for example: the Qinglong Yanyue knife is not allowed to move.
In addition, umbrellas are not allowed to enter the backstage. They must be picked up by the inspectors, and then put away before they can be put into the backstage.
Otherwise, umbrella = scattered
Chess games are not allowed in the background, because chess is played one by one, and if they all leave, the theater troupe will be gone.
Sitting in a suitcase is not allowed, applause is not allowed in the backstage, and laughter is not allowed on stage.
Don’t talk about changes before, don’t talk about dreams after. Foreground, to play watch, to say play watch (jīng), to backstage, to talk about dreaming, Huang Liangzi.
Wulin also has a bunch of rules, for details, please refer to Xu Haofeng’s “The Lost Wulin” series.
In short, there is salvation in a society with rules, and there is no salvation if there are no rules.
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