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Late last night, I came back to the bedroom from the living room, and when I opened the door, there was something stuck on my face. 
He glanced at me, “What’s wrong with you?”
I pretended nothing had happened: “It’s nothing. What?”
“It looks like you have something to say,” she said.
Strange, was my expression obvious at the time? Or did she not see it with her eyes, but captured the changes in my aura caused by my mood swings?
I did have something in my heart, and I wanted to tell her, but I felt that what I said seemed to show that I cared about those things.
I don’t care about the incident itself, but three incidents happened one after another on WeChat in just one or two hours, especially the last one, which finally made me feel sad-human beings’ joys and sorrows are not connected, Datong The world is hard to reach after all.
Of those things, two happened in the group, and one happened in private——
Does the premise hold?
The first one is in a low-code-themed group, which is one of the few technical groups I have experienced that can focus on technology-related topics; most of the group members are practitioners and researchers in the field of low-code Therefore, the overall quality of the knowledge level is relatively high.
The cause of the incident was that a person who was independently developing a low-code platform suddenly asked a question. See the screenshot for the whole process:
Low code group chat history
Since there are some implicit consensus in the low-code field and the related status of the group chat participants are not known to outsiders, I will make some necessary explanations to supplement the understanding of the context of the conversation in the screenshot:
- Unless otherwise specified, when speaking of “low-code”, it generally refers to “a low-code platform for mid- and back-end applications (management systems)”;
- As far as I understand, the person asking the question is doing exactly the above type of low-code platform;
- In my understanding, “free layout” is an infinite canvas on which elements can be placed and resized freely like Photoshop or sketchpad or whiteboard application software.
The person’s question added that “if the container is scaled, the internal elements can be scaled proportionally” there is a problem-what does “zoom” in “container scale” mean?
Here, the term is ambiguous:
- “Zoom in” and “Zoom out” corresponding to English “zoom in” and “zoom out”;
- Adjust the “width” or “height” of the container independently.
If you understand it according to the first one, no matter whether there is a technical problem or not, at least it is logically smooth; but if it is the second one, how to judge which elements in the canvas should be scaled proportionally is a problem.
In addition, I think that free layout is suitable for scenarios that require creativity, such as visual design and mind maps, and is not suitable for low-code platforms for mid- and back-end applications (management systems), and it is meaningless to make it.
During the whole process, my speech was almost ignored, and only responded when I questioned his thinking logic, and in a more “enthusiastic” way…
Isn’t it a waste of time to discuss on a false premise? I didn’t understand what was wrong with the logic and wording of my speech, but I still tactically admitted a “mistake” in the group.
Programmer etiquette?
The second incident also happened in a group mainly composed of programmers. The background of the incident can be seen from the article ” When you choose to give up, no one can save you!” “.
When things happened in this group, I was still stuck in the first thing in the low-code group mentioned above, and I didn’t have time to read the news of this group. When the matter over there was over, I went to this group to check the news, and found that someone was indirectly talking about me, so I joined it:
Programmer technical group chat records
The words and sentences I typed throughout the whole process were like a robot without any emotions and emotions, and discussed and exchanged purely rationally on the case; on the contrary, the other party kept trying to seize the moral high ground, trying to label me as dirty water, and even swearing at each other.
I didn’t understand what he meant by “basic etiquette in the technical community”, so I asked three times in a row like a child eager for knowledge: “What etiquette? What is etiquette? What is the function of etiquette?”
Not only did he not directly answer my doubts, but he also uttered bad words, so I wanted to ask—is the person who keeps talking about etiquette talking about etiquette to me like this?
In the end, I saw someone stand up and say that this is a “technical exchange group”, and the topic of our conversation is not suitable for this group; regardless of whether this kind of dialogue is suitable for the “technical exchange group”, I plan to respect their proposal, not in Continue to speak on this topic.
Do you want to delete each other?
Unlike the previous two incidents that happened in the group, this one was a private chat. We were friends in another group a few days ago because of the topic of independent development.
He also participated in the conversation on the second matter, but he didn’t say a few words, so it’s unclear what his exact position is.
After the topic ended, I found out that he was one of the few people who quit the group, and he was invisible to me in Moments. I thought I was deleted, so I tentatively sent an emoticon and a preventive suggestion:
single chat record
Didn’t expect to delete me…
epilogue
These three things happened in succession, and the last one touched my emotions like the straw that broke the camel’s back, and a feeling of sadness emerged spontaneously.
It needs to be emphasized that I am sad not because of these few things themselves, but because “people not only cannot understand each other, but instead complain, slander, abuse, and hurt”.
If I was used to keeping silent like many people, these things would never have happened to me, but I can’t do it, because I am an “enthusiastic netizen”-I hope the conversation in the group is as effective as possible and Efficient (even when you know it’s unlikely) but nosy.
Chat groups are a miniature society, where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. If I want to contribute to the coming of Datong World, maybe I am overestimating my capabilities.
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