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This article is primarily a note to Dale Carnegie’s book How to Win Friends and Influence People. The Chinese title of this book is “The Weakness of Human Nature”.
Carnegie is marketed as a success master in the country. In fact, I am quite disgusted with the word “successful learning”, but I have read his book and it is quite good. There are a lot of interpersonal experiences, in fact, I have summarized them myself, but they are not as detailed as this book.
Part 1 – 3 Fundamental Principles of Interpersonal Communication
1. Don’t criticize, condemn and complain casually
If you ask a criminal if he realizes what he did wrong, he may not realize what he did wrong, but instead he feels that he has done something good for society.
People are often unaware of their own problems. If someone suddenly pointed out his problem with fierce words, he might defend himself fiercely and not hear his opinion at all.
We need to get to know each other better and understand why the other person is doing it.
2. Compliment others sincerely
What is the motivation of a person to do something? Most of the time it’s to make you feel important.
For example, getting into a good university and dressing up nicely.
A compliment affirms the other person’s importance.
3. Identify the needs of the other party
What would you do if you wanted to put a sheep into the sheepfold? Push the sheep’s butt to let it in or lure it with what it wants?
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