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△ 214｜Legal Emotions
More than half of the article written in advance yesterday has been completed, but when I woke up this morning, I decided to create a new document and write down what I was going through at this moment.
When I was about to wake up, I was awakened by a nightmare, because it was so real that within half a minute of waking up, I didn’t realize that I had left the nightmare, and I continued to be entangled in the plot of the nightmare. . It was not until I saw my wife sleeping soundly that I was sure that I had escaped from that nightmare, and now I just wanted to turn around and embrace my wife to dispel the fear of the nightmare in this way.
Before I changed it, I probably wouldn’t have done this, because since I was a child, I was used to suppressing my emotions in the bottom of my heart, and I didn’t want to reveal my true emotions to anyone, I wouldn’t show my joy, and I wouldn’t tell others. Show your grief and fear. Emotional exposure is like a display of some kind of “weakness”, because of what makes me happy and because of what makes me sad – so most of my emotions have been released inward since I was a child.
For example, I would cry because I saw the tragic ending of a comic, but after all, I am a boy, and I am not allowed to release my emotions so exaggeratedly; to this day, I will always be overwhelmed by the touching point of a movie. I shed tears, but I was no longer surrounded by my parents, and no one restrained my emotions. Instead, I found that the instant release of these emotions is a normal thing, and there is no need to define it too much – why do men cry , I didn’t cry, why do you cry, why do you feel aggrieved than me…
I wrote a term paper when I was in college, and the content was roughly on the discussion of “why tears are gendered?” A type of keyword hook seems to put a universal label on “crying”, in fact, it also deprives men of the right to cry, or labels women’s crying with a more “” The label of “gender opposition” believes that a man’s cry is a form of cowardice, while a woman’s cry is more like a hysterical emotionality. Because I majored in law, I found a reasonable reason for this favorite topic. The point I took was “Is crying a natural human right?” Of course, this paper is more like a serious essay, and the arguments used in it are And the factual basis is more from various literary works, legends, and even myths, and whether people can cry, although from the perspective of morality of many people, it is the standard to strictly control others, but if it is true When a tragedy that even they can’t control happens, no one will care about “crying” anymore, and no fool will stand up and accuse others that they shouldn’t cry for it – this sentence obviously says “” Too full”, there really is a group of people in today’s society who, as moral guards, ask the last question when others are in a miserable low: Why not eat minced meat?
Now that I think about it, I was a crybaby when I was a kid, but I usually showed it when it was just me, or when I was with people close to me. The closer people are, the easier it is to cry because of the grievances and misunderstandings caused by those close to them. For a long time, my parents wondered if I lacked “masculinity.” Most of the time, I don’t express my emotions, but when I am wronged, I will keep suppressing the complex emotions in my heart, until the moment it erupts, it will become an extremely complex emotion. Crying is just the most commonly used emotion. It’s just a kind of expression, and other mixed emotions have also become my understanding of novel writing. After I became an adult, when I read the novel writing theories discussed by many novelists, I mentioned this “emotion”. In other words, laugh out loud in tragedy and shed tears in comedy. This kind of complex emotion, but I often experienced it when I was a child.
After high school, I seldom shed tears in front of my parents. They probably thought I should “grow up as a man”, but what I didn’t tell them was to stop crying in front of them, not because I castrated my emotions, but they were no longer “closers,” or objects that didn’t require me to express any emotions.
They put a label that they think is right on their children’s crying, but they can’t accept it. The real reason behind these emotions – I don’t think I can tell them now, why I don’t face them Crying because I don’t think they’re “worthy” to see my tears anymore.
Whether “crying” has a “gender label”, this matter is no longer meaningful to discuss in today’s society, because people have labeled “crying” in advance, and then they will have an intensified discussion about it—— “Is it a natural human right to cry?” is also not worth discussing, because the word “human rights” itself is also a sensitive word that will be replaced by ** on the Internet in Simplified Chinese.
As for people’s emotions, they will not change because of other people’s definitions. Those who try to live as they see it will not forget the ability to cry because of their “endurance”. Some people can be unbridled in pain, but they are shamed and ridiculed for being out of place; some people dare not cry out, but they are defined as hypocritical.
If emotions can’t be called human rights, then I think it’s a kind of “justifiable defense” that people face in the face of happiness and pain, but nowadays, there are still a group of eunuchs who castrate themselves, trying to castrate other people’s emotions, Let them become the same walking dead and stereotypes they are.
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