In my ten years of marriage, I have never bought flowers for my wife. I only brought home the bouquets from the company’s awards ceremony twice, and she always carefully found a vase to put it in. Why not buy flowers? First, I have little reading experience, so I probably did not see the value of flowers in life; second, I am not good at buying flowers. What should I ask if I walk into a flower shop?
According to my idea, I should express my love in the way I am best at, but what am I good at? Can’t write a piece of code? Besides, I’m not necessarily better at writing code than her, who told us to be peers! However, peers also have the advantages of peers. We can work overtime together, travel together, rehearse the annual meeting program together, drift horseback riding farmhouse, software algorithm family. Thanks to the big boss who celebrated his birthday on New Year’s Day and those warm and sincere friends. We took a ride on the team-built ride more than ten years ago to travel to Kunming, Lijiang, Dali, Sanya, and enjoy the dividends.
People who are like things gather together and divide into groups. One hundred years of cultivation and one thousand years of cultivation can be used to sleep together, ah ah ah, ah ah ah, the beautiful scenery of the West Lake~, the day of March~… Beside the point, two people are admitted to the same university or enter the same school Companies, there are more or less similarities. One thing we have in common is that we make decisions faster. I myself have always been reckless. When I was about eight or nine years old, I started writing aphorisms like “think twice before doing” in my workbook to spur myself on. It turns out that this method is not very effective. As for my wife, I think she originally had her own scientific decision-making process. Maybe after getting married, she was influenced by my bad habits. When she was sober, I would remind her to follow her own ideas. Unfortunately, I often Not awake enough.
One day ten years ago, the two of us went to the Xicheng District Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate in the morning. We ate at a completely unknown restaurant nearby at noon, and then started to look at the house in the afternoon. Basically, the contract was signed the next day. Although the decision-making time is short, my wife seems to have considered everything that should be considered, and I really didn’t think too much. I remember calling my mother when choosing a floor and saying that there are 21 floors in total, which floor should I choose? My mother said to choose the middle one, so I chose the 9th floor. The same is true when I bought a car for the first time. I started watching it on Saturday and bought it on Sunday. My wife opened the trunk and said wow, this is a big space, and I said ok, that’s it. Although the choice is often very important, if you don’t look back in hindsight, the factors that were entangled at the time are usually irrelevant, and the really important things are not included in the options at all. Fortunately, we have never complained about each other’s choices for ten years. .
If every choice in life is a brave and full of expectation adventure, then love is the most mysterious and sweet of these adventures. Our date started with a photography invitation in the sports park. In those days, SLRs were very popular in China. Like many diaosi in this city, I bought a Nikon D90 with one month’s salary, a 18-105 pullover, and used it to shoot. took a lot of photos. DSLR and photography have brought me two benefits, one is to add a lot of fun to my long-term and frequent business trip life; the other is to find a high-sounding reason for this date. All DSLR buyers say they are looking for professional image quality, but at least 50% of them are just like me.
Over the past ten years, I have changed many lenses for this camera, so it has honorably played the roles of professional photographers, landscape photographers, stage photographers, wedding photographers, family photographers, etc. Later, all kinds of lenses were vacated one after another, and now there is only one 135mm pure manual fixed focal head lying in the moisture-proof box with it, and it has not been working for a long time. Nowadays, I travel lightly, and a mobile phone is enough to take pictures and take pictures. I think that when I went on a business trip, I had to be fully armed with long guns and short guns, not to mention the ten-day honeymoon trip. I even carried a 6-pound laptop on my back. to Thailand.
Thailand is a very interesting place. Their three-booms are so formal that they can be priced by a meter. There is also a very nifty name called Tuk-Tuk, which makes people feel a little transcendental. Maybe the name of Douyin comes from this. ? When I went abroad, I found that the people carrying DSLRs were all Chinese. We have the traditional virtue of hard work, and we are never afraid of hardship or fatigue. In the mountains of Chiang Mai, local tour guides organized various competitions. Every time our team won, the other party had to make sour grapes: Because you have a Chinese guy. How do they know that I am not an ordinary Chinese guy, I It’s the Chinese guy on honeymoon.
Neither of us likes to travel with a group. It’s fun to buy air tickets, book hotels, wander the streets of unfamiliar cities, and haggle with local tour guides in broken English. And in tourist places like Phuket, the hotel service is very considerate, and the TVs in the rooms have Chinese channels: Macau Lotus TV. It rained for two days, we hid in the room and watched the Rocky series with Chinese subtitles and the first blood, the second blood to the Nth blood. Thinking about it, it was a wonderful and unforgettable experience. Compared with Phuket, Chiang Mai has extremely low prices and a more leisurely pace of life. We happened to catch up with the weekly market, and we were very moved to see blind singers lined up in the center of the market singing and dancing, because such an encounter is exactly what we all like. It’s like going for a walk after dinner, and accidentally broke into the music festival scene. The old wolf Pushu Xu Wei’s new pants or Wu Bai’s singing came, and we stopped to listen to it with joy.
And such music festivals, we have really been there. Did that come before or after the photography invitation? Should be later, right? At that time, I had been an old listener of the CRI Flying Fish Show for six or seven years, and I was very lucky. As a lucky listener, I got two tickets to the Karma Music Festival. In fact, this memory is a bit vague. I can’t remember whether the tickets were won or bought by myself, but no matter what, it is undoubtedly a kind of luck, because I used these two tickets to date my wife who was a potential girlfriend at the time. , and she likes the singers I love to listen to. Excited, I drew a map of the festival with my own hands.
The music festival experience at that time was very good, not only because people were in good spirits on happy occasions, but you will definitely feel the same if you say a few points: 1. It is close, it is in the Olympic Sports Center; 2. There are not many people, just like visiting a park , just walk over whichever stage you like, and you can also watch the runway show of blonde beauty on the way; three, there are big names, Lisa Ono, Wu Bai, Zhang Yadong, Zuo Xiaozuchan, Laolang, Cao Fang, tour group, Hao Cloud, convenience store, NAND, Gala, and more. Of course, there were some bands I didn’t know well at the time, but now I find them like finding out an old Hong Kong movie. All of them are stars, but I finally found a girl, do you think I’m just going to listen to music?
The beautiful experience of participating in the music festival for the first time made us obsessed with it, so that after we got married, we would still go for the ticket experience whenever we had the chance. The ticket price of the music festival was several times higher than that of ten years ago. My family’s song The group of friends also increased from two to three to four. My son said that his favorite singer now is Hackberry, and his favorite band is the new pants and the right to reshape the statue, and recalling that he was addicted to mosaics and gun flowers when he was three years old, I am relieved that the music festival was not in vain. How can people have any nature, the nature is to play! What children like or dislike is more or less influenced by parents and the environment. Only after contacting and understanding can they have a choice. Generations of parents who are running around blindly are probably doing one thing: choosing or creating options. . As a person who is not good at scientific decision-making, I don’t have a specific and clear plan for myself or my children’s future, but one thing, I hope they are confident and brave, act fearlessly, and be fearless!
The most glorious thing in the world is the shining humanity. I know that I am mediocre, and I am not a brave and fearless role model. On the contrary, I often worry that my “low level and great temper” state will affect the growth of children. When it comes to bravery, my wife’s small body contains far more energy than me. It doesn’t mean that she can win me over a fight. The real bravery is not panicking, not being limited by emotions and superficial concepts. It is her firmness and wisdom that both children have grown up slowly. My younger brother was a scumbag and a sleeper since he was a child. He would cry at every turn, and I was like the Monkey King in the episode of Liushahe, who ran over and knocked one when he was in a hurry. The stick doesn’t matter, how many nights my mother can’t sleep through the night. I hope the children can learn the wisdom and courage of their mothers and the heartlessness of their fathers.
Today’s life is very different from ten years ago, and ten years later, all children should be admitted to college. Life is so short, and time often passes without knowing it. I would like to remind this busy middle-aged couple that although firewood, rice, oil and salt are important, please don’t forget the beauty of music!
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